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Would be amazing if you could get a butch lesbian to join you for a longer video essay on that!!

I’ve always had short hair, with the only exception having long hair from ages 7 to 13, because that’s when I went to a private school where it was mandatory. Because of this I don’t think I really could tell the difference in how I was treated since short hair has always been my default. I look forward to watching the video <3

Love that you talk about that topic. I always cut my hair because people always told me its prettier long and long hair is just prettier on women/ girls. I got so annoyed so I started cutting it every time someone complimented me on my hair growth. Because to me thats nothing that influences ones beauty or femininity.

i'm a girl and when i was 15 i shaved my head to donate my hair to one of those charities that makes wigs for kids who have cancer and instead of people ignoring it or saying some of that usual stuff about it being a nice thing to do or even being patronizing and going omg you're soooooo brave or whatever, they were mad at me for shaving my head. like my parents and family were actually completely fine with it (they said i'm allowed to have whatever haircut i want). and then i would meet strangers who would be genuinely infuriated that i decided to shave my head. they would dress it up with concern for how people would treat me or concern for my looks or something, or "sympathy" but they were genuinely pissed that i'd decided to shave my head. especially because a lot of them misgendered me because of it, they tried to blame me for "looking like a boy now" and for being "not pretty anymore" and so on. it's actually insane how much people care about a woman's hair.

As a woman with disabilities, I’ve had doctors literally write ✍️ n my medical records assessments of my appearance as an index of my mental health. Like when my back was injured and I couldn’t raise my hands above my shoulders without pain, she recommended I be put on mental health medication because my hair was in a sloppy bun and I wore no makeup. I’m very careful now to go to a salon if I’m about to have my competence evaluated.

I remember when Kristen Stewart cut her hair short and I was like ‘oh I’m bi now, got it 👍’

i wore my hair really short from ages 14 to 21 and in the later years dyed it various bright colours, and men barely looked at me (fine by me, i'm gay) these past two years i've grown out my hair and dyed it blonde, and the change is staggering. in the days after i dyed it blonde it became immediately apparent that regular customers who usually barely acknowledged me were suddenly far more friendly and chatty. i didn't like it one bit.

Follow up video - women's hair and age. How older women are treated and judged if they DON'T have shorter hair, when is it 'appropriate' to stop using hair dye and go grey, etc.

I first cut my hair into a pixie cut when I was 14, mostly to make it easier to manage because before I cut it it was super thick and bushy, but also because I wanted to donate it to a charity that make wigs for kids with cancer. I immediately noticed a difference in how I was treated, particularly by men and boys. I got asked so many times why I cut my hair, and when I replied that I did it cause I wanted to, people were almost affronted lol. It was like a personal insult that I would cut my hair, something that made me attractive to men, just because I wanted to.

Pixie cuts are so cute though.

omg this is it. YOU GET IT, i would also highly suggest looking into Judith Butler's theory of gender performativity if you haven't already

Very interesting that Justin Bieber's early hairstyle is considered 'long' on him but would be termed '(very) short' or a 'pixie cut' on a woman (or female presenting person).

“You’ve got a full face of makeup, but you’ve got brown hair” cries in hair too weak to dye 😂😂😂

I've had a pixie cut for years and the rude or just weird comments I get from men and women, like people calling me brave (how is cutting hair brave?) Or the classic wow! I don't usually like short hair but it looks great on you/ you can really pull it off 😑 who asked you?

Living as a woman is constantly trying to score in an ever changing goal post. Gender roles are so exhausting 😩

Halle Berry, Toni Braxron and other Black women celebrities were famous and copied for their short hair. It boosted their careers and made them famous. Please don’t speak for cultures you don’t know the history of.

britney spears literally made national news in 2007 just for shaving her head 😭

I wonder how much of their hair cuts are actually a response to a change in public opinion, as an act of resistance. E.g. Jenifer Lawrence - I remember people being annoyed at her falling over the stairs / clumsy gal era and that was pre-haircut.

I think we should stop calling pretty privilege a privilege because is it really a privilege to accept objectification in order to be viewed as worthy of human kindness💀

Incredibly interesting and please please please do that video on the butch identity. Not only are they ridiculed by straight culture and queer culture alike sometimes, but those who love them also face insults and disgust ("Why would you date a woman who looks like a man? Aren't you straight then?"). I think you hit the nail on the head when it comes to the Justin Bieber hate and I believe you can apply the same logic (break the gender binary/loads of female fans) to the hate that male kpop idols receive, especially by western cis men.

Not this video sparking my cyclical urge to cut my hair all off and have a chic little pixie 😭 (I have done this 3 times already since being a teenager and I thoroughly recommend it 💕)

she's back yall 😍💅🏼

THIS IS AMAZING TIMING I HAD JUST FINISHED CATCHING UP WITH ALL UR VIDS!!

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that's crazy I've been wanting to cut my hair super short and I think this video being recommended to me is a sign 😩💕

It’s almost like people are mad bcuz how dare you cut something that so many women wish for, it’s even worse in the blk community. With that being said, sometimes women who do cut their hair off begin acting differently. Idk if it’s bcuz they are being treated differently or they are just ready for a genuine change.

I have had a pixie cut on and off for the last 10 years. I found that strangers would compliment my hair on the street frequently when I had a pixie. I have never felt "hated" for my hair, but I do find this phenomenon with celebrities weird. I did find that men responded to me and sought me out more with short hair than long hair which I found interesting and unexpected. Other women were about 50/50.

The power of a pixie can ressuscitate people from the dead, because when I cut my hair my ex - whom I had blocked - e-mailed me asking why I cut my hair short.

I think people just need to stop commenting on our appearances, especially to our face. Old people LOVE to comment about facial piercings for no reason. Like did we askkkkk

On the surface, brit shaving her head was based to me. But then I think of the girls I know who self mutilated in protest to the male gaze. Hair isn't skin but the idea is that they shouldn't have to respond this way to be left alone.

it baffles me when people do this. i don't because i'm a lesbian but it's pretty common

Female performance are simply DENIED of luxury not being sexualized! Female singers are simply not allowed to be weird ugly and unsexy! That’s why I have somewhat respect for Doja. Nordic metal bands been doing what she does for decades and no one bats an eye.

Disclaimer: AFAB agender person living in Los Angeles. I’ve had SHORT short hair for about ten years. Before I got it cut, but after I expressed interest in cutting it, a few people warned me that people would think I’m a lesbian (which is what I would prefer) and that men wouldn’t find me attractive. Many men do assume that I’m a lesbian, but there’s been no reduction in male attention. The most annoying kind is the kind of man who needs to let me know that he thinks most “women” can’t pull off short hair, but I should be pleased to know how well it suits me! If you have “feminine” facial features, if you’re slender… cutting your hair might not change the way people interact with you that much. I’m perceived as “stronger” with short hair but I had really hoped that the short hair would correlate with a decline in male attention. It didn’t. I shaved my head and everything is very much the same. It might deter the most traditional men, but the world has made it clear that my shaved head only accentuates my “feminine” features. For any AFAB folks considering cutting your hair (especially in a liberal area, which is all I can speak to), I still say go for it! But I wanted to add to the discourse what no one told me: depending on your features, short hair might accentuate your “feminine” features. People might simultaneously see you as tougher and fetishized you further. But if you’re gonna do it, do it for you. People are always going to find a way to hold women down. Just be aware that if you’re used to the discourse of short hair being something that makes you less attractive, you might be disappointed to know that people will still see you as a beautiful woman above all else.

i have had a pixie since i was 13!

I'd add that people in the past covered their hair for cleanliness reasons as well as societal reasons. When you have to heat up a bunch of water to wash all that hair (potentially in a cold room pre central heating), you're likely to want to stretch out the amount of time between washes by keeping your hair cleaner

I think have a short hair sometimes let some men intimidated

On the topic of conforming to beauty standards. I consider myself a feminine woman, however im not 'ultrafeminine'. I dont do my nails, i dont do my lashes, i dont wear makeup every single day, im body building, i lack any knowledge about how to do my hair to make it look 'produced', so i simply wear it as it is which is just straight hair. But i consider myself feminine because im somewhat there. I think women could ask themselves why all this extra effort. I mean, i know class has a lot to do with it as there are richer women the ones who can have their lashes, hair, nails, everything done etc every single day. A lot of every day women are normalizing these procedures to a point that i think they should reconsider. Im talking the nails every month, lashes every month, and such expensses that can sum up to hundreds or thousands. We can still be feminine and not be that ultra feminine stereoptype every single moment and day of our lives.

Hair is Deeply political” Slay

I love butches so much. Seeing them made me realize that I had the option to not perform feminity all the time. That I can feel attractive without needing to feel feminine.

I hope you can start sleeping and eating again soon! <3 those are the worst times

I feel like Natalie Portman didn’t get hate when she shaved her head for V - let me know if I’m wrong 😅

Omg the giveaway is insane i always skip all the ads but today i didn‘t lol, i thought i didnt hear right when you said anyone

A notification of a new Jordan Theresa video never fails to cheer me up 🩷 please make the video you mentioned when talking about butch lesbians

i was called a hermaphrodite in school after i cut my hair short (i was actually inspired by miley cyrus). no one should be called that as a slur but it was especially ironic because i was a pretty "girly" girl, with typical girl interests. just because i had short hair my gender performance was questioned? it was really difficult as a teen but kind of an interesting experience too, to know how different some people will treat you.

Short hair often contradicts the persona that most celebrities try to give off. For example, I hated it on Jennifer Lawrence but I didn't mind it with Emma Watson because short hair matched Emma's counterculture public persona a lot better than Jennifer's "I'm the next onscreen IT girl".

Yeah when you list all of those celebrities one after the other… the pattern emerges really clearly. So crazy. I grew up with a mother who was feminist in a way where feminine things were demonized. I also had curly hair unlike anyone else in my family. I wanted to be pretty and wear makeup. I like cooking and cleaning and art and domestic stuff. But was made to feel like a failure as a feminist because of these things. I was conventionally unattractive and extremely self conscious until I discovered how to get pretty in my own. And I too experienced whiplash by suddenly being treated so much better in the world once I was pretty. But on the flip side I also had to deal with bosses who I admired trying to sleep with me - and I was totally unprepared to deal with it.

OMG I LITERALLY JUST GOT A PIXIE CUT FOR THE FIRST TIME THANK U THANK U.

How grb"s husband has been demonised because she said he hoarded food and everyone said, yeah, he's a much worse person than her. Dehumanisation through fat phobia

as a girl who went from waist length hair to 'man short' hair, the switch up from other girls my age was crazy. its like some dont see me as a person anymore its insane. i still get look from men tho?

This reminds me of when I was in high school and Hailey Williams of paramore cut her hair short. My friend Ricci said “you can’t understand how hard it is for me to not be attracted to her anymore. She’s ruined!”